A man, ain't a boy...

The distinction between a man and a boy.

It is really important to understand the distinction between a man and a boy. Because if you get stuck with a boy stuck in a man’s body, then you are gonna have a bad relationship, you gonna end up a lot of unnecessary troubles and worst of all you gonna end up having your time wasted.

So what is something to look for a guy when you meet him? You want a real man. You want a man who is up to life. Someone who is going somewhere, someone who is gonna grow and expand and be a positive addition to your life. So the first element to look for when u meet a man is: Is he on purpose. Does he have a purpose in his life? Does he have a specific direction and a specific goal he is going towards? Is that goal so important to him that he does not let anything take him off his path? Is there something he is determined to get no matter what? A man who has purpose, who has direction, who is going somewhere, who has put up a goal and a vision, and is moving towards that vision no matter what, that is a man who has a piece in himself. That is a man who faces his challenge of life. That is a man who going to expand and be a positive impact in the world, with himself and to you.

Second thing what really identify a real man is: His willingness to face challenges and go towards challenges and face his fears and move towards his fears. A little boy is someone procrastinating, someone who is avoiding his fear, he is not facing the things he needs to be facing. When he sees a challenge, instead of going through the challenge, he goes around it, he procrastinate it, he step aside. You want a man who is strong, a man who is going somewhere in his life. A big catalyst being a man is a man who goes towards the challenge, he goes through them, and he faces his fears. Because that’s gonna determine whether he is going to be success or failure in life. Because in order to fulfill his purpose, he needs to be able to meet challenges and overcome his fears. So they go together. If a man is not fulfilling his purpose in life, he becomes lost, he becomes unconscious in terms of he is not present he is not in the moment. that means he is not in the moment with you, which means you are not able to feel him, which means the intimacy is going to die, the sex is going to die, the emotional connection and the intellectual connection are going to die. All of that is going to die. Because inside his head, inside his body, he doesn't feel right, because something is missing, and maybe he doesn't know what is missing but what is missing is he doesn't has a purpose. He doesn't know what his purpose as a man is here for. A man who is healthy emotionally and physically is a man needs to be on his purpose.

So big component when you look for in a man is:

Number 1: Look for a man who has purpose,

Number 2: Look for a man who runs towards challenges and faces his fears and welcome challenge in his life.

Number 3: Look for a man who takes full complete 100 percent responsibility for himself, his life and everything that happens to him. This is very important. If you meet a guy keep whining about his ex-girlfriend, whining about life for the economy and all the other stuffs. This guy is a victim, this guy is an excuser. He makes excuses for why he is not successful in his life. And you get with this guy, he is going to make excuses all his life, he is gonna stay still while you go move ahead ahead ahead. And then you gonna be so different and you gonna break apart.

If you meet the man who has these 3 things, this man is indeed shining and charming. This guy is pretty sure bet. Because he got his stuff together, he is going somewhere, and emotionally and psychologically he is healthy, he is relax and he has where he needs to be. When a man is on his purpose and his path, then he is able to be fully present with you. That’s when a beautiful relationship between a man and a woman can flourish. Because he is a man who is fully present, and you are a woman who is fully present, and you both are connected and then everything works out.