Friends

Dear friends,

There are many types of friends in this world... Hi-Bye friends, fiends to hang out with, friends to have same hobby together, friends to share happiness only, fiends to share up and down, friends to share everything, friends to back you up no matter what, friends who will fight yet still care and need each other in their life till forever, etc. All these type of friendships need times and hard times to test and make a friendship to be sublime.

Friendship needs time to build up and also depends on the fate. It's all about the feelings when you spend time with, personality to click with, comfort, trust, respect, kindness, the topic to click with, core value you having in mutual, etc. You can't expect people to be your best friend if you treat them as close friends. Don't expect things in return when you treat somebody nice. Friendship is neither a business nor a trade. Everyone of us needs space for each other even the super besties have their own privacy and time for themselves and their other group of friends. Do not be too possessive and let the jealousy ruins and kills what you having now.

You only able to be the real you, be natural and relaxed. The more you try to make it work and forcing it to happen as you wish, the worst it will become because friendship is something unlike material stuffs i.e work and studies. It's not one-way communication, it needs both parties to agree, to share and to contribute. It needs both hands to clap. Show respect to people, be considerate, be positive, be opened, take initiative to mingle with people happily.

People have their own choice to have what they want just like you have your own choice to want what you wish to have. It's okay not to get along well with a person. If we cannot be good friends at this moment, let's just be normal friends now. Comfort zone is very important. Let thing flows naturally is the most comfortable way to get along with people. People will become less stressful and so do you. Communicate with them with your heart, let them know how you feel honestly, don't beat around the bush, don't make things complicated. People will see the real you in times, whether you are good or bad.

If things do not get to your way, respect how it is and be patient. Be true and showing respect are the most important keys to hold people together happily. It will make friendship to last long. I'm not saying you need to feel obligated to be everyone’s best friend (in fact, you shouldn’t).